One of my favourite lines from Shakespeare is "Love looks not with the eyes but with the mind,/ and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind". Ruled by cognitive Mercury and dedicated to service, when I think about Virgo - I think about love. This lunation’s Moonthly theme and reflection agrees: I serve with love and without expectations.
Which begs the question - What does it mean to serve with love and how does Love look with the Mercury ruled mind? How do we then serve Love without expectations? Does a daily devotion help?
What I know is that the most precious renewable resource we can give is our attention to another. “Attention” is a function of Virgo’s ruling planet Mercury. Virgo is “Small Things Often"; the motto of the Gottman Institute; a research and training institute for couples. When it comes to the many ways we nurture a relationship, this New Moon wants us to focus on how we serve with the love of small things often and with our Mercury ruled attention. It’s up to you, your conscience, and the intentions you set this New Moon to illustrate how small things often look in practice within the culture of your relationships.
Throughout Virgo Season, my Virgo friends and I have made a conscious distinction between expectations and agreement. Virgo Season does want us to love without expectations because they’re resentments and disappointments waiting to happen. Virgo Season wants us to love with agreements. Which means we’ll have to get Mercurial, specific, and vulnerable while we verbally ask for what we want with the people co-regulating the experiences with. And we mutailize our desires carefully to make sure we’re honoring the desires, agency, and boundaries of another. With Virgo’s help, we’ll move from the unspoken, ambiguous expectation to clear “Who will do what by when?” agreements.
There is little uncertainty in my mind about how the context of habits, routines, and daily devotions constructs “Identity”. The more I learn and behave from the idea of atomic habits and the choices we make that create being, the more I realize the quality of our inner agency and resources we have to devote ourselves towards becoming the people the Universe wants us to be. If we want to be people who serve with love and agreement, a daily devotion helps us (re)cognize our minds so that we look at love from the mind and the heart. So that we might see who is in front of us, the small things often that help them feel cherished, and the feelings we feel when we’re with them.
Let the New Moon in Virgo provide a space for you to take a stand towards loving without expectation but with agreements, and illuminate the daily devotions you can lean on for inner-peace.
Humility, Health, Wellness & Routine
The deeper question is - who are you “being” Aries? The New Moon in Virgo helps you understand your “being” as a prerequisite for the “doing”. As an action-oriented sign, you’ll want to think about what habits, routines, and rituals help you become the leader you’re supposed to be. Through the proactive cultivation of mental, emotional, and physical health.
Courage, Worthiness, Charisma & Lovability
It’s time to tell the story of your whole heart, Taurus! The New Moon in Virgo wants you to reveal, not conceal. It wants you to self-disclose, not self-protect. It’ll be imperfect, a bit scary for sure; but this New Moon is helping you develop experiences which instruct how both vulnerability and courage are necessary for the most meaningful life you deserve.
Vulnerability, Home, Family & Emotionality
Let’s get emotionally curious, Gemini! The New Moon in Virgo helps you recognize, understand, label, express, and regulate your emotional world. You’ll want to give yourself permission to feel. You’re not an emotion judge, but an emotion scientist. Then you’ll be able to have the most powerful foundation to develop emotional self-acceptance and emotional intelligence.
Curiosity, Observation, Language & Active Listening
Clear the air, Cancer! The New Moon in Virgo helps you perceive, speak, and listen very carefully so that you can understand a new idea which has the potential to transform the quality of your life. Dismiss nothing as irrelevant. Question, study, and understand the primary topics the Universe is teaching you so that you can apply it shortly in the months to come.
Finances, Security, Clarity of Values & Pleasure
What does “Enough” mean to you, Leo? The New Moon in Virgo helps you understand personal, financial, and even relational sufficiency. In other words, what does the feeling of being and having enough provide for you? It’ll give you a lesson to see the inner and outer resources as substantial and connect you to gratitude, generosity, and collaborations.
Identity, Desire, Charisma & Authenticity
Happy Birthday, Virgo! The annual New Moon in your sign wants you to share your most specific and fearless birthday wishes. You’ll want to suspend comparison, scarcity, perfectionism, and compliance to center authenticity, sufficiency, and wholeheartedness. This vision will provide a context for you to own your desires and make them happen gloriously!
Completion, Surrender, Healing & Spiritual Support
Take a deep breath, then release Libra. The New Moon in Virgo brings up all the contexts for closure. From limiting beliefs, habits, patterns, and relationships that keep you mired in shame, fear, and guilt. So that in the space you clear, the Universe can bring about all which keeps you centered in empathy, hope, belonging, and love. May all the healing you deserve be yours!
Friendship, Activism, Convictions & Shared Humanity
It takes a village, Scorpio! The New Moon in Virgo connects you to the people who want to give you as much as you give them. You’ll be tasked with the vulnerability of trusting others and safely relying on the help, empathy, and assistance of others. Lean into the gratitude of their offerings and recognize their loyalty and love to you as the reciprocity you’ve earned.
Career, Purpose, Integrity & Responsibility
Rise and shine, Sag! The New Moon in Virgo wants your intentions on career. From becoming self-employed to perhaps a leadership opportunity within your current work. This lunation wants your bravest, most audacious ideas on all the ways you can use your natural gifts and abilities to serve the world. Then you’ll want to listen carefully to the direction you receive!
Wisdom, Publishing, Vision & Higher Education
Now’s the time for data-application, Capricorn! The New Moon in Virgo is a demarcation between data-collection to data-application. You’re holding a key learning which needs to be applied in your experience somehow. Ask the Universe for help in operationalizing the education you’ve received so that you might see the applied transformations take place.
Intimacy, Eros, Sexuality & Transformation
The central organizer of your sexual satisfaction is your imagination, Aquarius. The New Moon in Virgo helps you imagine the erotic and, like Esther Perel teaches us, see sex and intimacy as not a thing you do but a place you go. Let the New Moon through your imagination help you understand where you want to go in sex and the kind of aliveness you want to have from it.
Romance, Love, Partnerships & Trust
Opposites *do* attract, Pisces. The New Moon in Virgo warns you to see romantic relationships as a container of contradictions that need be managed and leveraged rather than a problem that needs to be solved. It will bring out the best, and sometimes the worst of our personalities; but with the right orientation, systems, habits, and boundaries, love will be given and received.